My Happy Place

The last month has been a real behaviour challenge for me, not with children's behaviour but my own. It was a month of constant sickness for the kids and my mum, running a business and the house and throw in the school holidays. The holidays when I should be spending the time with my children, yet I am playing catch up with work due to having time off when they were sick. As many of you know my mother has Alzheimer's and is now on another decline, this will be a separate post, I will be writing about Alzheimer's a little more as I have some lovely followers who are in a similar position. Back to right now though, reading through blogs and comments on Twitter and Facebook, I appreciate that we all go through many crappy not so good days. We can get up with the best intentions then bang in your face ! Things start to spiral out of control and before you know it you feel stressed, guilty, anxious and just want to run away from it all. At one stage today after finishing a four hour appointment I got in the car and drove for five minutes, pulled over and then just sat there. I sat there delaying my return home, my home where my family is. I know that once I'm back through that door, my mum's carer leaves and I'm back on duty. A role which is getting harder but that for now I can still do. Most people that know me, see me as a happy person and that is what I am. I am a pretty laid back kind of girl. I am passionate about children, love my work and adore my family to bits. I study and work with behaviour and I know that when you take the time for a few minutes everyday to notice the positive, it does make a difference in your whole attitude. It does not make the problems go away but it can give you the confidence to be able to handle them a little better. Our brains are complex and our inner voices are so powerful they take over our emotions, until we end up either completely burnt out or crying heap on the floor. I don't want to be like that, I am confident that my understanding of behaviour and all the families I've worked with, that behaviour is changeable, so I'm using my own advice for once and starting up my Happy Place.  

Finding the Postive in My Happy Place

I want to change my behaviour in that I want to be happier again, I want to be able to care for my mother but still enjoy having a life. I want to laugh out loud, I want to dance, I want to go out a little more regularly without the constant sadness and worry inside. I want to accept the situation  with mum and still live as me. So what I am about to start is the Happy Place, which will be where everyday I will write about anything that made me smile, laugh or made me feel good. It will be a Happy Place for everyone, so even if I had a not so good day, I will still look at the bigger picture and write about the happy moments. They may be completely random things that have happened in the past that still make me smile, or little thoughts that have popped into my head that make me laugh. I would love your company, behaviour patterns are changeable and its always good to have a friend  to help you along.  

Join me in my Happy Place

I would love some company in my Happy Place and I am going to commit to 30 days of journaling my happy moments, I would really appreciate some company it would be brilliant to hear your happy moments too, how fabulous would it be if one of your happy moments made someone smile and feel a little better about their day. So I'm setting the 30 day Happy Place Challenge, you don't have to write a piece everyday you can just leave a Happy moment comment under my post or you can link up through your own blog.   Life will always have ups and downs but right now I need to focus on all the ups and having some of you on this journey would really help me, I know that sound selfish but friends are the ones that bring you up when you are down and I consider you my friends. We can all help eachother bring a smile and some laughs into our lives. I will at the end of the 30 days ask you all if you felt any benefit and there will be small surprises a long the way.  

The  My Happy Place will start on Monday 10th October 2011, if you are interested please just leave a comment below and how best to contact you.

 

If you are too busy too laugh, you are too busy